My family....

Every time I go home I realize how much different my family is from me.
So one of my family member is seeing this guy who is older and all he does is give her money. This man just happens to be separated from “his wife”. So I am not ok with her getting too serious about him before he finishes this other business completely. So my aunt calls herself giving me a talk about letting my family member do what she wants; because she has a “good man” who is taking care of her. I later pondered that. So basically, my family member should settle for whatever piece of him she can get because he pays a bill here and there.



So should my family member not ask questions like "when is the divorce going to be finalize?", "do you plan to get it finalized before we get closer?". It seems like she is getting paid not to say anything that might rock the boat. When I suggest she asks questions, everyone tells me to mind my business.


This is nonsense to me. Up until this guy came she was handling her business and I believe when he leaves she will still find a way to handle things. So why is it ok as long as “he takes care of her”. Is it not good that she can take care of herself and not need a man? Is it wrong to be a strong, independent woman? Do I just have too much pride, am I crazy but I am ok with not needing a man to do anything for me (one thing eventually, lol)? I am so heated that my family member and her friends/sisters thinks that because this man gives her money she should accept him with all his unnecessary baggage.

Is he really a “good man” if he moves on to the next woman before finishing what he started with the previous?


So I ask you, are you ok with a man who pays most of your bills and treats you nice but he is still married but separated from his wife? What about a man who is still with his wife but he treats you just as good as the wife, vacations and cars? Am I wrong for wanting better for my family and myself? How much are you willing to accept just because a man pays a bill or two? I have another cousin who has a list of men she calls every month to pay one of her bills. She thinks this is cute but it is not like she stays in a townhouse or anything. I am looking like, if this was working I would be living on the best side of town and in the best apartments ever. I am not lying she called like 3-4 one day asking them each about a different bill that most offered to help her with. I was sitting there imaging if something i could see myself doing. Of course not, I know when GA power and Honda want to be paid, I do not have time to chase behind a man(men) to get them paid.

I guess at the end of the day for some, its not about meeting someone and getting to know them and falling in love. Its about what can you do for me right now!!!!

Got to love family.