life is so funny. i try to plan everything out but God plan is often so different especially the timing.
According to Livi's plan, I should be happily married with at least 2 kids. Wow!
But today, although I have my moments where I wish that cute baby in the stroller is mine, I know my current state is God's best for me. God knows I am not ready for my better half right now because I am not my best and I would run him off with all this stuff God still has to work out in me.
But do believe when God gets through with me, I am going to be something else, watch out!!
As some of you already know, I meet the most interesting men. God has given me a great sense of discernment and I know pretty quickly if this is a God fearing man and if I think there is something there. But do you know having discernment is pointless if you do not heed to the warning. This is where I am today. I hear God saying nope this is not the one but I still proceed like something is going to happen overnight and he will be come the one.
Ladies I need your help. I am tired of spending time that i can not get back on men (people) that are not contributing to my life purpose. People who do not know there own purpose so how can i expect them to help me to get where I am trying to go. I need to learn how to walk away once it is revealed that this is trouble, proceed with caution.
Why do we as people, hold on to what we know is not good for us. If it causes us more trouble than pleasure than is it really worth it? Is it because we are impatient and don't want to wait on the person who is destined to be in our lives? We should know that as long as we allow mr wrong to hold the place mr right, we will not have room for mr right when he appears. I heard once, that we should "keep folks where we meet folks, let God do the promoting". Meaning if we met him in the club, leave him in the club; if we met him in the mall, leave him in the mall; if we met him at the Waffle house, leave him at the Waffle house.
Do you know your purpose? Is the people in your life contributing to your purpose? If not, why are they there?
Oh dear friend...my heart is with you as I attest to experiencing the same frustrations for many years. I'm still not out of the woods and may never be. The lesson is this...live for YOU!
ReplyDeleteDoes the problem really lie in us "allowing" Mr. Wrong to stick around too long? Have you considered that perhaps WE are responsible for creating our own standards, boundaries, rule AND then WE don't even entertain Mr. Wrong past hello? You're a smart, intelligent, beautiful woman! You can see Mr. Wrong running at you and meanwhile Mr. Right is in the background watching how YOU react to Mr. Wrong. I believe, as many of you know that WOMEN are also very responsible for men behaving badly. We allow it! Why? You're right Livi....too desperate, too needy, too impatient. Women engage in affairs, engage in booty calls, entertain liars, players, users....etc etc. What motivates a man to change his ways if we allow it?
I'm not saying this will eliminate Mr. Wrong from squeaking into the serious dating arena. However, turning away from these things that we DO honestly see can help one eliminate entertaining Mr. Wrong in the first place.
Character, character, character. You see it all the time on the church signs and open the Word...it's in there from beginning to end. Why then don't we apply that concept to this human life and look at a man's character. If he does NOT meet all of YOUR character requirements...walk away. Period.
Finally, I still hold strong to my opinion that as women continue to entertain mans bad behavior...(cheating, lying, using, etc) they will continue to do so. I'm certainly not saying we can change the world however, if we, as strong women, want to see an improvement it has to start with us. Be self-respectful of yourself, look for character, walk away when you're FIRST gut instinct screams RUN NOT WALK AWAY FROM THIS ONE! And for my male friends I say the same. There are a lot of needy, trashy, money seeking women out there too. Go with your gut people! Go with your gut!
In the end Livi, yes today the people in my life do have a purpose. I've grown confident and secure in myself and realized I don't NEED everyone to like me. You know,as I do that evil lurks around us ALL the time. Lean on God's simple character teachings & walk in faith.